A Father's Mental Health Recovery Journey: Beyond The Bullet - OC87 Recovery Diaries

A Father’s Mental Health Recovery Journey: Beyond The Bullet

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Jalil Frazier is a hard-working father who is always at the ready to help a friend in need.  He was shot trying to prevent a robbery at a neighborhood barber shop. He woke up in a hospital weeks later, unable to talk or walk. “I was so heartbroken. The only thing I thought was, ‘How you going to take away something from the good guy?’”

Although Jalil recovered his ability to speak, he remained paralyzed and is working hard to adjust to his new life. In addition to the physical challenges he faces, Jalil knows that the mental challenges brought on by his injury—fighting the “dark place” his mind wants to travel to when he feels low—are equally important to discuss and address.

Still, his spirit remains inspiringly positive. “The goal is to never give up,” he says, echoing the message he has tattooed onto his arm.

Jalil’s journey of recovery is the latest of our four-part series “Beyond the Bullet: Gunshot Violence Survivors Speak.”  The series presents members of the Gun Violence Survivors’ Support Group, based in Philadelphia, who tell of their journeys of pain and healing, isolation and community, and, most beautifully, stories of recovery, love and support.

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Jalil is one of the founding members of the support group. He is newer to his wheelchair than most other members and wrestles daily with his new identity. He tries to focus on his abilities rather than his disability (“Anything that my arms are able to do I’m going to do”) and is grateful for the support that the group provides. “The group helped me a lot,” he says.  “I wasn’t a talking person…but the group has made me open up more and I don’t want to keep no secrets. I want you to know how hard this is. There should be no secrets, give it to you raw, how exactly it is.”

Above all, Jalil still wants to be “the good guy.”

“Yeah, I’m in the wheelchair, but I want to continue to be that helpful person, the good person.”

All of the voices in this series deserve our attention. Their lives are the window into the very human suffering that gun violence has on our society, and their stories are filled with a strength and resilience that is awe-inspiring.
 

EDITOR IN CHIEF: Gabriel Nathan | EDITOR: Glenn Holsten | DESIGN: Leah Alexandra Goldstein | PUBLISHER: Bud Clayman

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Glenn is an award-winning director who loves to create compelling documentary story experiences of all lengths for screens of all sizes. He is an avid reader, studied literature in college, and his passion for stories with strong characters and interesting narratives stems from those years. His career as a visual storyteller began at WHYY (the public television station in Philadelphia) where he worked for 15 years before becoming an independent filmmaker. In addition to his PBS documentaries about arts and culture, he has directed films about justice and human rights, and now, mental health. He was emboldened to undertake his current documentary project, Hollywood Beauty Salon, a colorful feature-length documentary about surviving mental illness and finding the courage for recovery, after his transformative experience directing OC87: The Obsessive Compulsive, Major Depression, Bipolar, Asperger’s Movie, along with Bud Clayman and Scott Johnston.